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The Great Debate: Logic Vs. Emotion, Which Is The Better Quality?

Which is a more important quality to have? Which is stronger than the other? Which is a better quality to have in society’s eyes? These questions run through my mind whenever I think about logic and emotion. Every individual has different levels of both. Is it better to have stronger logic? Well, what comes with better logic? Definitely levelheadedness. Usually people who are logical are smarter and better at problem solving. And usually people who are smarter are able to think their way into life regardless of their socioeconomic class. Smart is smart. The bad sides of emotions are that they cloud judgment. Road rage and manslaughter is a good example of how emotion can negatively affect logic. If people stop their heated anger and logically think about their situation, there would not be certain crime in this country. Emotions such as feeling empathic can make you a better person. Such emotions can compel people do help out the less fortunate or even just a coworker who is going through tough times.

When you breathe your last breath, what are you going to be thinking? Remembering? It’s certainly not how smart and logical you are. Sure, good logic might have gotten you places. But, you are going to be thinking about the people you love, your family. Your spouse and kids. Your parents. Your friends. The love and passion you feel for those people. How well your life was spent. You flash back to the most emotional moments.  It might be your first child being born, or your parents passing, or anything in between. Logic doesn’t matter in the long term of your life. Yes, it does matter in how you get to places. You use logic to get that promotion at work. You use logic to get that great deal on a new car. Logic in the short term helps you along the way for an easier life. But an easier life doesn’t mean a more fulfilled life.

It is always good to have a balance of everything. But, that’s not the case in life matters. Nothing is ever truly evened out. I think it works better for some people to have one more than the other. Some people are more logical in nature. Some people are more emotional like I am. I am biologically more emotional than a man. This is how society involved into the notion that men should be at work earning money while women stay home and look after the children. The men earned money. Money is valued greatly. Men are more logical than emotional and they have been associated with money, the big value in society. With more money, you afford nicer things. You are higher up in the social system. You are deemed successful. That is how logic has come to be better than emotions in a society’s viewpoint.  Although this has greatly evolved, some values still stay with us. The debate between logic and emotion will never reach a verdict as it is so abstract and subjective.  As a human quality, I think emotions are the better one to have. Without emotions, how can we empathize and be able to good things? Without emotions,life would be missing out on the truly important things. But to get ahead in life and be deemed as successful, logic comes in better play. What do you value more?

How To Organize On A Budget

One of the many excuses people give when they don’t want to organize their space is that organizing is expensive. But, it doesn’t have to be that way. Sure, the container store is an awesome place to look around at. But, it’s so overpriced I probably wouldn’t even shop there if I was rich. There’s a fine line between value and cost. That’s why I love the dollar tree. They have awesome finds for just a dollar! When I first began my organizing journey, I had a very small budget. I was able to organize my whole storage closet for under $20 by buying bins from the dollar tree and re-purposing old boxes and baskets. Your closet doesn’t have to look Pinterest perfect. What matters most is functionality and how well the system works for you. I have had this system in place in my closet for about 2 years now and it works great! I’ve tweaked it a few times to fit my daily life and it has been working great ever since. I’m never been more happy about a space and I think it’s because of the budget friendly side of it. Who says organizing has to be expensive?

 

Coming up: A debate on Logic and Emotion. Which is better than the other?

What Color IS the Dress? Really.

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I saw the dress as white and gold. The true colors are black and blue and I do not see those colors at all. Some people saw the dress in the true colors, went back to the original picture shot that was on a camera phone and they could only see black and blue from that point. I still see white and gold which was in the bigger percentile. So obviously, I researched this to see if I am going crazy or not. When I’m still a crazy person nonetheless. The brain is interpreting the picture as underexposed meaning there is not much light in the picture, making the dress look lighter in comparison. Our eyes have cones and rods. Rods help us see at night but since the picture is underexposed, we are perceiving the photo as dark making our rods more sensitive.  Either way, I see white and gold and that should be replaced the hook in the song “Black and  Yellow” by Wiz Khalifa. I see white and gold, white and gold, white and gold, white and gold. Science is strange, indeed!

The Ways Art Makes Me Feel

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Art can be a soft feeling that invokes me and makes me feel serene. Art can be an ever striking lash to my face. Art can make me laugh so hard I clutch my sides. Art can make me want to go in a corner and just think or cry. Make me want to be alone so I can feel things on my own. Art can also make me want to go out be so social I flutter away, I’m high on everybody’s attention on me. I shy away because on the inside I’m just a weathered soul who wants nothing more than just to feel. Living on the edge is not my lifestyle. But staying in my comfort zone is not the way I want to keep on living. I want to do those things that make life worthwhile. My circle of comfort needs to be stepped out of. It needs to be broken and I can be set free. Set free to do what I really want to do. Create. I want to be somebody that creates things that makes other people feel whatever their heart allows them to. Create that little thing called art. Not everything is art. But anything can be art.

 

How Cleaning Helps With My Depression

I’m a freak yes I know. I love cleaning and organizing. Probably two of the most dreaded things people do in their lives. Sometimes I can’t even go to sleep if my house isn’t in order. It’s not like I’m OCD. I don’t go marvel over specks of dust and clean through all the cracks. I just like things relatively clean and organized. Sometimes, I’m so excited to wake up in the weekends because I know I have a whole day of cleaning ahead of me. I start with the bedroom because there’s the least to do in there. I don’t keep a lot of stuff because I think a bedroom should be free of clutter to be nice and peaceful for sleep. The key is to keep things simple. The fewer things to clean and the easier it is as things have their own place. Two of my favorite cleaning tasks are vacuuming and doing laundry. I love vacuuming because it’s a great finisher and I love the little tracks it makes on the carpet. Laundry is fun because I love the smell of fresh clean clothes. My least favorite task is washing the dishes. I don’t like getting wet or touching old food left over. I hand wash my dishes because I don’t like using the dishwasher. I reorganize my closets and purge through items I don’t want anymore. It gives me a refreshed, light feeling. Doing all of this gives me such a relaxed and productive aurora. I get in the zone. I get in that mood where I don’t think about anything else going on in my life. I tune everything out and listen to upbeat music as I clean. It helps me feel renewed and purposeful. It’s very zen. I suffer through mild depression. Cleaning in fact saves me. It’s a way of life telling me it’s moving on and moving around. If it wasn’t then things would stay the same and I wouldn’t have anything to do. Which is the time when I get the most depressed.  I used to have weekends where I would have absolutely nothing to do. Then I get into this funk where I feel like I don’t have anything to look forward to. Thoughts that life will always stay the same, boring and stagnant. Cleaning keeps me busy and reassures me that the world is moving on. It’s a good thing my home gets messy! In fact, I get excited about mess. Something I know that will take up my time.

Books v.s. their Movie Adaptations

 

Most movies nowadays are adaptations of popular novels that would have all the great movie making components. I think there’s somebody who actually reads books and decides if they could be made into a great Hollywood movie. That job, definitely could go into my list of jobs a hypothetical jobs I would love to have in my hypothetical life. How great would it be to read books for a living and to analyze it and say oh yes, this will make a great or horrible movie. Novels occasionally range from various total number of pages. They always have so much content, content that could not be all relied in a movie. Movies are different. They show the viewers the story instead of telling it and usually do not exceed 2 hours and 30 minutes. Then how can a 500-700 page book be squeezed into that time frame? The answer is it really can’t.

People always compare the books and their movie adaptions. Extreme fans of such books would scream at the thought of changing a scene or not putting in a specific one at all. The actors are scrutinized by fans who clearly have perfect visions of what characters should look like. For these kinds of movies, critical reception is on the bridge as the opinions of those fans of the books heavily matter. The thing is, they already have expectations of what they are about to embark at the theaters.

What I really want to convey is that people should stop comparing. Books are movies are entirely different forms of art. Yes, the movie adaptation is based on the book. But, that is where people should think. The movies are based on the books. Nowhere does it say this movie will be exactly look the book and will contain every single moment in the book perfectly to your expectations. That would be impossible. Or it could be possible but it wouldn’t make a very good movie. Movies are here to entertain. That is why they are not 5 hours long. Who would stay entertained that long? So yes, some parts of the book will be left out. Some parts of the books would be condensed and some could be changed. People should stop saying the line “the books are way better than the movies”. Yes, the books are better than the movie in certain aspects. There is more depth of the characters and their emotions and thoughts. There is more depth of what is happening in the events. It is because books are in writing. It is so much easier to be able to write a whole page on what a character is feeling. Books don’t have caps on how long they could be. If authors wanted to, they could write, write, write. However, movies can be better than books in certain aspects as well. You get to see what the characters look like, you get to soak up the settings and see the story come to life in visual format. Books and movies are two entirely different things. People shouldn’t be looking at them the same way. Although, there is nothing wrong saying “I wish this scene was included in the movie” or “I wish the casting for this certain character was different”. But things get awry when they say one is better.

Some famous movies based on books are notably: Harry Potter, The Great Gatsby, Memoirs of a Geisha, The Hunger Games, and seriously all of Nicholas Spark’s romantic novels.The most recent movie is the teen romantic thriller, Divergent. I have read the book and also seen the movie afterwards. I enjoyed the book and also have enjoyed the movie. But, I do not think one is better than the other. The book did a better job of explaining the character’s personalities and relationships more. The movie did a better job for conveying certain scenes for me, especially the one with the main character, Tris, zip-lining hundreds of feet above. Several scenes were changed and I really did not mind. The producers felt that one of the antagonists should make more appearances in the movie than in the book. I felt that it did work out towards the plot in the movie. When scenes are changed that have no impact to the plot, that is when the movie starts making less sense.

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So people should stop comparing books and movies like they are the same. They are clearly not. On a more amusing note, let’s see if movies and book adaptations will ever spout. Now, what would people say to that?

Life on the Other Side: Dealing with Stress

Stress is something everybody deals with on a continual basis. I get stressed out about every single thing imaginable.

-The over amounting work I have to complete.

-Dealing with people. Not just difficult, just people in general.

-When things don’t go my way….

The number one reason stress preludes my day. I woke up completely wrong. Hated the blazing sun on my eyes. Yes, spring is more like summer where I reside. Which is another funny story actually, as I was getting emotional the night before about missing the drafty and freezing winters. Winter, I wait again for you to wrap me around that shawl of cold, cold embrace. Yes, dramatization is the key to emotional confessions. I started getting ready for my day, but my eyes resorted to being puffy and watery.  Broken appearance has a great deal of an effect on women and needless to say, to that point I was stressed out. Stress can be described like today’s economy, as a spiraling cycle. When it begins to be bad, there seems to be no way to stop it or to get out of it. On a whim, I looked up on the internet, “stress”. Maybe there could be some profound psychologist who has composed magic steps to release me from this. So, I found a video from Ted Talks, a speaker named Kelly McGonigal who has realized the proper way to deal with stress.

From this, I learned there is life on the other side, the right way to live with stress.

It is the common conception that stress is seen as something negative. Atrocious. Bad. Dreadful. All in all, Crappy. It is not good to have stress; it is one of the leading causes for the number of deaths. Seriously. However, the turn around is not the fact that we have stress, it is the way we look at it.
Change the way we approach stress. Change the way we view stress. Stress is our body’s way of prepping us for whatever comes next. Our body’s way of pressuring us to the point and we then finally act. So, yes stress helps us in life! Take for example of the stress of public speaking. People can definitely be feeling the weight when they have to present themselves in front of others. That is when stress comes to play. It pushes us. It pushes people when they have fear. They act on their stress and come through with something they were dreading otherwise.

Stress prompts us to want more human interaction. Makes us social. This is quite astounding as I am as antisocial as it ever gets. Talking to people, helping out people actually lets us release some of the energy we have when we are stressed out. It makes sense, it feels good to physically interact with someone or help out others in need. It also lets people seek support of their troubles instead of bottling it all up. Human connection is a important factor in dealing with stress. Rethink your stress response. Think of stress as being helpful when you go into a situation next time and the results will be an insurmountable change. Think of stress as a rouse to go seek people and the connections to them.

View stress differently. Make a statement against stress that you can handle it. Make a statement that you are not alone when dealing with stress. Maybe you will see, life is really better on the other side.