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What It Feels Like To Be Dating A Narcissist

You never have to build up their ego. They already have the biggest one you’ve seen. They spend a long time in the bathroom. Mostly spent by looking at themselves in the mirror. They think they’re always right and will try to outsmart you in any argument. They never try too hard. They don’t have to. They’re already amazing! Which in the case of my boyfriend, he is pretty amazing. And he knows it, too. He has the biggest sense of importance of himself. Everyone should know who he is; everyone should pay attention to his mere presence. His head is so inflated, I wonder how it hasn’t popped yet. Granted he should rightfully so be proud of the many things he is proud of. He is proud of being the smartest person on earth. “No, the universe” he always corrects me. Apparently, it has to be known he is smarter than aliens, too. When I first met my boyfriend, he was so intuitive he guessed everything about my whole life story in one day. He reminded me of Sherlock.

We both have different ways in which we receive complements. I’m a total opposite of a narcissist. I have the lowest self-esteem ever. When anybody tells me that I am dressed nicely or my hair came out pretty, I shy away and can’t even accept it. When I tell my boyfriend that his hazel eyes are stunning or that his arms are oh so muscular or that he looks positively cute one day, he responds with “I know right!” He’s also not joking about this. Many people joke about carrying a big ego. He doesn’t because he feels completely shameless in doing so. Granted, he is so handsome I don’t know if he has any other way of reacting to his attractiveness.

It’s pretty remarkable actually how he loves me so much. It’s easy for me to love people. I always care more for everybody else and sometimes I put me aside. Which is bad, I know. But a narcissist? They lack empathy for others. They care most about themselves and everybody comes second or maybe the number two is too close to the number one. My boyfriend is at number one and everybody cuts it at number 100 probably. Or number 1000. But as far as I know, I’m not at number 100 or 1000. I’m not even a number. I’m the biggest priority in his life. In the beginning of our relationship, it was hard. I realized it might not be possible for him to love at all. I became anxious that I was putting in time to a pointless relationship. Without love, how can it be prosperous in the future? As the months went on, he started changing. He grew sweeter and more caring. He began to love somebody that wasn’t himself or his family members. He started doing nice things for me such as opening the door and being patient when I started talking about the problems in my life.  It’s baffling that a narcissist, someone so about themselves, puts me on a pinnacle. It makes me wonder if he’s actually a narcissist at all.

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Books v.s. their Movie Adaptations

 

Most movies nowadays are adaptations of popular novels that would have all the great movie making components. I think there’s somebody who actually reads books and decides if they could be made into a great Hollywood movie. That job, definitely could go into my list of jobs a hypothetical jobs I would love to have in my hypothetical life. How great would it be to read books for a living and to analyze it and say oh yes, this will make a great or horrible movie. Novels occasionally range from various total number of pages. They always have so much content, content that could not be all relied in a movie. Movies are different. They show the viewers the story instead of telling it and usually do not exceed 2 hours and 30 minutes. Then how can a 500-700 page book be squeezed into that time frame? The answer is it really can’t.

People always compare the books and their movie adaptions. Extreme fans of such books would scream at the thought of changing a scene or not putting in a specific one at all. The actors are scrutinized by fans who clearly have perfect visions of what characters should look like. For these kinds of movies, critical reception is on the bridge as the opinions of those fans of the books heavily matter. The thing is, they already have expectations of what they are about to embark at the theaters.

What I really want to convey is that people should stop comparing. Books are movies are entirely different forms of art. Yes, the movie adaptation is based on the book. But, that is where people should think. The movies are based on the books. Nowhere does it say this movie will be exactly look the book and will contain every single moment in the book perfectly to your expectations. That would be impossible. Or it could be possible but it wouldn’t make a very good movie. Movies are here to entertain. That is why they are not 5 hours long. Who would stay entertained that long? So yes, some parts of the book will be left out. Some parts of the books would be condensed and some could be changed. People should stop saying the line “the books are way better than the movies”. Yes, the books are better than the movie in certain aspects. There is more depth of the characters and their emotions and thoughts. There is more depth of what is happening in the events. It is because books are in writing. It is so much easier to be able to write a whole page on what a character is feeling. Books don’t have caps on how long they could be. If authors wanted to, they could write, write, write. However, movies can be better than books in certain aspects as well. You get to see what the characters look like, you get to soak up the settings and see the story come to life in visual format. Books and movies are two entirely different things. People shouldn’t be looking at them the same way. Although, there is nothing wrong saying “I wish this scene was included in the movie” or “I wish the casting for this certain character was different”. But things get awry when they say one is better.

Some famous movies based on books are notably: Harry Potter, The Great Gatsby, Memoirs of a Geisha, The Hunger Games, and seriously all of Nicholas Spark’s romantic novels.The most recent movie is the teen romantic thriller, Divergent. I have read the book and also seen the movie afterwards. I enjoyed the book and also have enjoyed the movie. But, I do not think one is better than the other. The book did a better job of explaining the character’s personalities and relationships more. The movie did a better job for conveying certain scenes for me, especially the one with the main character, Tris, zip-lining hundreds of feet above. Several scenes were changed and I really did not mind. The producers felt that one of the antagonists should make more appearances in the movie than in the book. I felt that it did work out towards the plot in the movie. When scenes are changed that have no impact to the plot, that is when the movie starts making less sense.

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So people should stop comparing books and movies like they are the same. They are clearly not. On a more amusing note, let’s see if movies and book adaptations will ever spout. Now, what would people say to that?